With the days counting down until my undergraduate graduation, there are standard phases that have hit my peers and I. First, the immediate freak-out that the recession makes us all look like lazy piles because there are few (if any) with jobs, then there’s the gradual monetary hit and realization that parents will soon be cutting the cord, and finally the one that I’m anticipating far more than most would like to articulate out loud: the social aspect and coming to grips with the fact that my friends aren’t all doing the same thing at the same place anymore.
It sounds silly but in all honesty this last phase sticks out more for me particularly because this is the first “real” time you’ll enter into the real world. This is not the high school to college transition where most of your friends and acquaintances just happen to be in different classrooms and different universities. This time, your peers are headed to who-knows-where doing God-knows-what.
For my particular university, they’ve harped on about this motto from day one: we’re in the Creighton community. And, the message they send us as we set out on our wayward path is that we will always be a part of this community. However, a little part of me speculates that’s the alumni office making headway on our future donations. But, it will be hard to determine if a university that didn’t specifically create my relationships and experiences can maintain my friendships once I leave.
I’d imagine it comes back to the push for individual effort to stay connected. And, through my experience, I think social media will be a saving grace to this social fear.
Unlike our parents, whom are just marveled by reconnecting with old friends on Facebook, our generation skips that social media gap. We’ve been friended, (maybe even de-friended) and followed for years and there are more ways than one to “look someone up.” We have the tools to remain in constant communication and if used effectively, they may be the perfect aid in this post-grad transition.
There ought to be some tricks of the trade to surviving the college aftermath and here’s what I’m planning for:
Everyone will still have a birthday. This may be the simplest yet easiest way to reconnect with others as we begin to move our lives in separate directions. Everyone will still have a birthday and the impact of social media on birthdays can keep you connected with everyone from your best friends to the guy you took Sociology with, that one time. Check out this great little example from a man, who has grown up a little on the outside of the Google era but still has found a connection – better yet, a reconnection – to more of his friends over social mediums like Facebook and Twitter. Birthday’s are simple, constant and heck Facebook will still give you reminders, don’t forget how important a happy birthday wish can be.
Know the details. I, for one, am not ready for the awkward “recap the last XYZ months/years of your life to me in five minutes” reunions. In my experience, those are the buzz-kill moments for most any friendship. The minute you lose track of the details, it may be the minute you lose track of the person and your relationship. People grow and change daily and that is evident when you get to those recapping conversations. However, social media helps keep people updated on the details. And, by following with simple intentions and not by being a stalker, for the most vested relationships it may be helpful to know what’s going on via updates, pictures and tweets. You may not always get that text that they went skiing, but if you’re good friends you can always ask them about the pics of those killer slopes.

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Help a brother out. When you know what’s going on in the lives of your friends, social media provides a great outlet to maintain that Golden Girls’ “Thank you for being a friend” vibe to your relationships. Social media becomes all about collaborating and if you know of a friend looking for something, there has bound to be someone you have met along the way that can help. Social media helps to connect your new world with their new world and allows you to extend your networks. It provides another, less formal forum for others to find employment, help on projects and inspire new ideas. You would have helped your buddy when he lived down the hall, no reason to treat his tweet any differently.
Reunited and it feels so good. Reunions will always be a huge part in maintaining friendships after college. Plus, what’s better than a road trip to a different city? But when you haven’t visited or had the chance to catch up, always remember to reconnect. There are so many modes to simply drop a line, send a message or even “like” something. Any bit of connection, innately helps bring some life back if you’ve lost some touch.
To be honest, I’m terrified of moving forward but I have faith in my skills as an emerging media maven, and hopefully, some of these tricks will come into good use.